Pitfall no. 4 - The Motivation Trap 

So, UNLESS YOU SET A CLEAR FEELING GOAL it is very unlikely for you to get the necessary focus and drive to go for it.

Awaiting motivation to drive forward to action is the next pitfall.

What a massive misconception.

If you jump with joy to grow?you are extraordinary and do not need my services. Or you are kidding yourself on.

If it?s easy it?s not worth it. If it?s comfortable it?s your nervous system playing tricks on you to keep you where you are, pulling the wool over your eyes.

Hypnosis, yes sometimes it works, yet you still need to (after removing underlying obstacles) put the new path down. You might know how tempting it is to the familiar again?

Want to know a secret?

Ever seen a canyon, ever been in one? 

Imagine this is like a ?well-trodden habit path?. Ok?

Depending on how deeply ingrained your habit of going this well-trodden route influences the height of the walls you meet on either side.

So, when you now try to go a new way, what will you face?

Correct: A ROCK FACE.

And that is exactly why it is handy to get an experienced coach with robe access skills to give you a hand up. 

Some of us LOVE rock climbing and LOVE being shown the blind corners to practice our amazing skills. Others are new to it, as it?s not something you really do unless encouraged from childhood and trained by wonderful role models.

If you ever rock climb there are a few tips that come in very valuable.

1. Don?t look down! (Movie Solo is a great one to watch determination in action, the actor is on the spectrum and I in no way would endorse trying this yourself)
2. Breathe and find a spot to find rest even just for a few moments
3. Keep your eyes on the goal and your inner champion doing the talking
4. Shut down any negative self-talk immediately, as ?I can?t? might be your last words ? 

It?s easy to talk yourself out of rock climbing, or indeed changing a familiar habit, but there is a mind-hack that I got from the book (from the couch to a 5K).

Just focus on the first 2 MINUTES of anything you wish to establish new.

Let?s take going for a run as a simple example here.

Instead of saying I do a 2-mile run every day after work, reframe it.

At the time set (alarms work wonders) commit to getting started. i.e putting your gear and your shoes on. Resistance is not linear. You will experience the greatest resistance in the first 2 min of any new activity which is no longer covered by the motivation which brought you to action.

When you are all set it is so much less likely (I am not pretending I know the right % here) to stop, you climbed the small hill to your new habit successfully.

Training hill walks before you tackle the sheer cliffs is a great idea!

Why not take a deep breath and just call me on +44 7789813481 and see where 2 minutes take you? 

Engaging in a  2 minutes conversation with full conviction and allowing yourself to decide if you wish to continue is the key.

Have you ever had your Mum give you a choice but really only one option was acceptable? Have you ever done this to your children? Of course, we have! Unfortunately, my kids ?smell a rat? and I can no longer get away with it.

Practice making good choices

Fall in love with the things that you know serve you - I know You Know.

Knowing and not doing is the same as not doing, right? So I will help you DO NEW THINGS.

It is not all that hard and easily becomes an obsession. ( I admit, I am guilty of getting really excited about choosing courage over fear and organic dark chocolate over a quick bar)

P.s. Please note not all walls need tackling, let?s find out the one's worthwhile climbing.

Quality questions give you self-guided quality answers, building clarity and certainty in your own instincts.

Goals often seem fluid, yet all waters run to the ocean.

What is your ocean, what calls you?

A certain fluidity is subject to renewal as insights shift the goalposts at first till you become crystal clear about your values and purpose infuses your goals, down the line.

Put your boat in the river and trust even when the river takes a turn it gets you there. Do not get out and dig a new trench or climb without being certain. Having been stuck or revisiting places like in a  ?groundhog day? experience are tell-tell signs that it?s time to get on a new level.

Whereas a vortex can keep you stuck in the struggle, trying to fight to drown.

I have tools to helicopter yourself out of danger, I will only use them when you are sure you have run out of options.

Pitfall no 5 have you ever crammed for an exam... always?

and you got away with it, right?

Well, growth and cramming do not work together, so we need a new tick.

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