Pitfall no.3 - Fast built & The Blame Game
Lack of foundation or how not to build your dreams on sand.
How do you know your foundation can support your dream?
The universal law of growth = you sow - you care - your reap (there is no timelapse just better gardening skills)
Imagine you are commissioning your DREAM HOME. Could you imagine it, do you have ideas about how it looks?
Will you hire an architect you will share these ideas with?
Without your clarity (goal setting) how likely is even the best architect in the world can create YOUR DREAM HOME?
Now imagine you?ve got a piece of land that you inherited from your family.
It's good and you can see your dream house standing on it, proud and tall.
Question: Will you do a land survey before the building starts, yes or no?
Will you check if there are cavities below and that the foundation is good to go?
OF COURSE, YOU WILL!
Have you ever missed that bit and your dreams came tumbling down?
What did you do? Let me guess...
If your confidence is high - you will have blamed others, right?
If your confidence is low - you will have blamed yourself?
These are default settings of human behaviour.
Same with building your dreams, first sign off the foundation as otherwise, it might all come crashing down on you.
Before ordering the bricks you need to know that your ?base? needs are looked after (not the shelter food and so on, but your human needs).
FOUNDATION OF HAPPINESS:
The 6 needs to build a strong foundation for your dreams and feel whole again
(by Tony Robbins 6 human needs)
What are YOU still searching for to feel whole?
Where are your strengths, where is your blind spot?
Sense of belonging ? Humans need a strong sense of belonging, this is why we value relationships, friendships and connections so much. Our own childhood often influences how we navigate personal boundaries and be open and vulnerable.
Sense of significance ? Humans need to feel special and valued, this is why we give so much weight to the GOOO (Good Opinion Of Others) it?s like glue and wading through it can be tiring yet it also is the wind beneath our wings and can lift us up.
Certainty ? Humans need to feel a sense of comfort in safety. By learning and receiving accountability, being dependable through repetition and reoccurrence of congruent actions. Seeking a path, system or strategy that gifts clarity. Our Nervous system requires some of that soothing energy of familiarity to be able to make hard decisions in midst of our ever-changing reality.
Variety ? Humans need stimuli, going into uncertain terrain to seek new ideas, looking for a change. It creates neurostimulation that helps us to be adaptable when life?s surprises catch us off guard, which in turn builds self-esteem and confidence.
Contribution - Humans are wired to help others unless this instinct got broken through scarcity or greed. Happiness is closely linked to helping others. The secret to a fulfilled life is to share the abundance we have created for ourselves.
Growth ? the soul?s sole desire is expansion and growth. To have meaning in life we need a sense of progress. We are surprising ourselves. seeing how far we have come, acquiring new skills, tools and support. Like for a child growth is natural so it is for our soul.
Voila,? here you got your perfect foundation to grow anything your heart desires.
When Growth includes contribution and certainty stem from within ourselves, life is seen as an adventure. We find our perfect dance between being Egocentric (orientation and focus on self-worth) and being ethnocentric (orientation to a tribe or the whole).
The 4th pitfall will unveil the dirty procrastination trap..
Did it every get you?
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